UJA Examines Family Relationship/Jansen Hospice Hosts Evening of Remembrance

UJA-Federation of New York's Westchester Women's Philanthropy explored the complexity of family relationships with Rabbi Lori Koffman at a private home in Larchmont on Thursday, January 22, 2015. Nearly 50 women came together to learn the Jewish perspective on the joys and challenges of being both parents and children. Event chairs included Rickie Broff of Scarsdale, Caren Osten Gerszberg of Larchmont, Nancy Kanterman of Mamaroneck, Susie Schnall of Purchase, Allison Spitalny of Scarsdale, and Amy Tanenbaum of Harrison.

"We have something in common: We share the same values and concerns," said Susie Schnall. "We're Jewish women who care about our families and want to understand and elevate those relationships. And we're here today, coming together under the auspices of UJA-Federation of New York, which means that we also share values that are common to the Jewish community – caring for those in need, ensuring that there is a Jewish community tomorrow, and finding meaning in our heritage and legacy."

Hospice Hosts Evening of Remembrance:

This past December, Jansen Hospice and Palliative Care welcomed family members with a personal connection to Jansen to their annual Celebration of Lights ceremony. It was an evening of remembrance and restoration for all those grieving the loss of loved ones.

The poignant, non-denominational service was hosted at the Reformed Church of Bronxville, and officiated by local clergy members, including Father Gus Badgley of Saint Joseph's Church in Bronxville, Nehemiah Luckett of Asbury Methodist Church in Crestwood, Reverend Cari Patterson of the Reformed Church in Bronxville, and Chaplain Suzanne Graham of Jansen Hospice in Scarsdale. Mr. Luckett performed Jonathan Larson's "Seasons of Love", a song with lyrics that invite retrospection and call for the celebration of life. Reverend Patterson extended comforting sentiments in a heartwarming homily that drew on her background as hospital and nursing home chaplain, as well as her personal experience coping with death and loss. She referred to hospice care in a special way, calling it "a gift" that alleviates worry so friends and family can devote themselves to their beloved and have "meaningful conversation" - something invaluable as hospice patients near the end of their lives, and so often offer advice that "illuminates a path" and "shines light" on how to move forward once they are gone. Towards the end of her homily, Reverend Patterson said, "Though your husband, your wife, your mom, your dad, your grandparent, your co-worker, your friend, maybe even your child—is no longer with you in bodily form, their flame has not gone out, nor has their spirit." This idea was a perfect segway into the candle lighting sequence in which family members lit candles in celebration of the person they loved and lost, with reassurance that their spirit would shine forth forevermore. It was a beautiful end to the night.

After the ceremony, family members enjoyed refreshments and mingled. The chatter among the crowd echoed feelings of thanks to Jansen Hospice for the exceptional care they offer patients, and for continued bereavement services after an emotionally devastating loss. It was a therapeutic experience for many who attended, and the night's theme of looking forward and celebrating life offered encouragement, hope, and healing.